Have you ever taken a moment to recognise the weight of unresolved emotions and experiences carried from one relationship or situation to another?
What I can guarantee is that it always begins with two participants.
There are multiple facets within romantic relationships and within our daily life too. Some facets are positive and some negative. Have you reflected upon why?
Today's blog will discuss the top 3 reasons why relationships fail and provide you with an interesting tip.
Projection, disillusionment and power struggle are the top 3 reasons why relationships fail. When the scope is broadened it can be applied within the dynamics of every circumstance we encounter.
Our thoughts about reality are predicated upon our experiences. One example may be, if one of your parents cheats on the other and then your partner cheats on you; then the thought can easily be once a cheater always a cheater. Is it true? Not always.
Taking a broader scope may offer a different set of questions. What is the core issue behind the thoughts surrounding this experience? What are the symptoms? Most importantly, what can be done about it? When we begin to ask ourselves such questions it allows an opportunity for self exploration. By breaking down the experience it allows us to understand why we feel what we feel without bringing the emotional heaviness of that experience. When we do not complete the process it is the emotional heaviness of The Suitcase that follows us into future relationships along with the projection, disillusionment and the subsequent power struggle. There are a few simple tools that can help you process your emotions and if you want to learn how, then click here and book your consultation.
Think about it!
Our culture encourages us to avoid the agony of loss and defeat at all cost. The first thing to recognise is that suffering does not come from the circumstance, for that is reality. As Martha Beck says, "the sufferings arrives from the emotions and feelings we place upon the thought about reality." The ability to lean into our emotions even when we know it will be painful is brave. By going through the process we are undergoing something transformative that will be very beneficial.
The question is once you understand the emotions around the reality of what is, then what?
What tool can be used to break down the emotion behind the story? The 5 stages of grief is a process that is crucial in how we represent ourselves, not only within the context of once a cheater always a cheater, but also in every relationship.
We are familiar with using The 5 stages of grief and loss to process the death of a loved one.