
Molestation- how to heal, live and thrive.
Updated: Apr 10, 2022
Have you ever heard about the boiling frog theory? It describes a frog slowly being boiled alive. Well, it's a true story and it goes like this.
In this article we will describe what the boiling frog theory is and how it relates to navigating the everyday experiences in life. How sharing my own story of sexual abuse can help others to transcend the pain of their thoughts, learn to live a joyous life and feel comfortable in their own skin again.
TRIGGER WARNING- this story includes themes of alcohol and sexual abuse.

Movement is Life.
If a frog is suddenly placed into a pot of boiling water, it will jump out. However, if the frog is placed in a pot of cool water and the heat is turned on, as the temperature of water incrementally increases, so will the frog's temperature, as it adjusts to that of the water. Until it boils to death because it has not noticed a change in the temperature.
I know, it sounds horrible, because it is, but stay with me.
What are you doing right now in your life that models the frog in the boiling water theory?
Okay, I will be super transparent here and share a truth that caused me an extreme amount of pain for 30 years. I hope that by sharing it it will help you, too.
TRIGGER WARNING- this story includes themes of alcohol and sexual abuse.
I remember one Summer afternoon when I was thirteen. My uncle picked up a bunch of my cousins and me. He took us to a beautiful lagoon where we were all enjoying the beauty of our surroundings, swimming and laughing. It was the best I had felt in my skin for months.
My Uncle was pulling each of one us unto his knee and throwing our arched bodies into the air as we splashed like cascading waterfalls landing in the lagoon.
As we laughed and carried on, I swam to him and sat on his lap, awaiting my turn to be tossed again. He slowly slid his fingers inside of my bathing suit bottoms and I froze. He proceeded to fondle me in the most horrific way, I turned completely numb. I don't think I took a breath. I thought, this is my favorite Uncle. Why dare he do this? It was such an awful experience.
My intellectual coping mechanism kicked in for many years, and it said, yes, I was molested at a young age. That was then and this is now, or so I thought.
