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How to close the relationship loop!

Updated: Apr 10, 2022

Have you ever experienced a horrible break-up that left you filled with more questions than anwers? Did you gain closure? If not, did you take the hurts and pains of that experience into your following relationships?

There is power in releasing all that no longer serves you.

Here is an introduction in using two magical tools. They will allow you to have closure in a meditative way and most importantly, not take the discomfort into your future relations.

Carrying the weight of our old thoughts and feelings about an experience into our new relations can blur the lines. I don't know about you, but being punished for something someone else did does not feel good.

These tools are designed to guide you in becoming accountable to yourself, your behaviour and becoming clean as you prepare for what is next. To have tools designed for you, click here and book your consultation.

First, make sure that you have unpacked what did and didn't work in this realtionship and forgiven yourself and your partner for what was.

(If you don't know how to do this, check out the blog titled, Unpacking the Hurt. It is located under the Health & Wellness section.)

Now, this first tool is as useful on land as it is by the waters edge.

Here in Malmo I enjoy this process as I walk through Slottsparken or take a stroll along the sea at Ribersborg.

Tool #1 Go to your favorite park, lake or ocean.

1. Take a walk!

2. Begin by taking 3 Deep Breaths. Emotions may flood to the surface and that is okay. This is part of the healing process.

3. Clear your mind of what was by speaking into the air what you wish was said to you in a healing and loving manner. Speak what you wish you may have said to your partner from a place of peace and not hurt.

This is not the time to rehash the ugly session!

4. Continue to walk while looking at your surroundings, being present, breathing in the fresh air and turning back when you no longer feel the pain of that experience.

Tool #2

1. Pull out a few sheets of paper, a pencil to write with, flame proof bowl or pot, matches/ lighter, cinnamon powder and locate a safe space to light the flame.

2. Take three deep cleansing breaths.

3. Pick up your pencil and begin writing what you wished was spoken to you. Take the time to also write what you may have said to the other person from a loving and healing place. Continue to bear your heart and allow the emotions to come up, breath through them and release them.

Remember that was the past, this process allows you to clear space of what was for what is yet to be.

4. Take your sheet or sheets of paper and rip them up in such a way that they fit neatly within your chosen fireproof pot or bowl.

5. Sprinkle the cinnamon powder over the sheets of paper. It has magical principles.

6. Carefully light the paper, IN A SAFE PLACE, where you are camly and lovingly releasing all that is.

Remember that the next few days you may experience a few more thoughts and that is okay as they will become less and less as the healing process completes its cycle.

These two techiniques can be used to heal all of your relationships.

Acknowledging what was is part of the healing process to what comes next...

Remember: when. we value ourselves, we value each other.

Take care,


Click here to learn more tools and gain confidence in navigating your everyday life.

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